Signs of Declining Health in Aging Parents to be Aware of This Holiday Season
- Melissa Hakim
- Nov 3
- 4 min read
The holiday season is not only a time for family gatherings and joy but also a vital opportunity to check on the health of aging parents. As loved ones come together to share meals and stories, it's important to stay alert for any signs of declining health or cognitive ability. This guide will help you identify key indicators during your holiday visits, ensuring your loved ones get the care and attention they need.

Physical Signs to Observe
When visiting, pay close attention to your parent’s physical health and appearance.
Changes in Personal Appearance
Look for noticeable declines in personal hygiene. If your parent is not bathing regularly, grooming less, or wearing dirty clothes, it could indicate they are having trouble managing their routine. For instance, if they regularly appeared clean and well-dressed, a marked change might warrant further checking in.
Weight Changes
Watch out for significant weight changes. For example, if your parent loses more than 5% of their body weight within a month, it could indicate a serious concern, such as a diminished appetite or health problems. Conversely, unexpected weight gain may suggest inactivity or poor eating habits, which can lead to health issues over time.
Mobility Issues
Observe how your parent navigates their home. Changes in how they walk, a noticeable lag when using stairs, or heavy reliance on furniture for support can signal mobility problems. If they frequently complain about pain while moving, it’s crucial to address these signs with a healthcare professional.
Frailty
A general appearance of weakness or a sudden drop in energy can be alarming. If your parent looks more tired than usual or is losing muscle mass, consider scheduling a medical appointment to evaluate their health.
Cognitive and Emotional Signs
Cognitive changes can be subtle but are essential to catch early on.
Forgetfulness
Increased forgetfulness, such as repeatedly misplacing items or struggling to recall events, can indicate cognitive decline. For instance, if your parent forgets recent conversations or tells the same stories repeatedly, it may be time to discuss memory health thoughtfully.
Mood Swings
Watch for emotional shifts, such as greater irritability, signs of depression, or withdrawal from social interactions. If your parent seems unusually distant or disengaged, it might point to underlying emotional or cognitive challenges that need attention.
Loss of Interest
If your parent no longer enjoys hobbies they once loved—like gardening, reading, or participating in social events—it could signal declining mental health. Encourage them to return to activities they cherish, as these can significantly promote well-being and cognitive function.
Home and Safety Signs
The condition of your parent's living space can reveal a lot about their health status.
Unkempt Living Space
A messy or unsanitary home environment can suggest neglect. Look for signs like piles of unopened mail or dirty dishes in the sink, which often indicate your parent may struggle with home management.

Medication Management
Check for stacks of unused medication or confusion over dosages. Research shows that improper medication management can lead to serious health risks. Make sure your parent understands their prescriptions clearly.
Financial Issues
If there is unopened mail piling up or overdue bills, this could indicate problems with cognitive function or emotional health. Having a frank discussion about finances might be in order to help them manage these issues better.
Food Safety
Inspect the refrigerator for expired items or minimal food supplies. A well-stocked kitchen is key to maintaining good health. For example, a lack of fresh produce can indicate nutritional deficiencies that need addressing.
Safety Hazards
Look for household dangers, such as poor lighting, unstable handrails, or the absence of non-slip mats in the bathroom. Fixing these hazards can greatly reduce the risk of accidents and enhance safety for your parent.

Steps to Take
If you notice any concerning signs, it's important to act.
Start a Conversation
Begin by talking with your parent. Use open-ended questions to allow them to share their experiences and any issues they may be facing. This can help you understand their concerns better and foster a supportive dialogue.
Evaluate Home Safety
Take the time to assess their living environment closely. Address any fall risks, ensure basic appliances are turned off, and make emergency contact information easily visible. A safe home is essential for your parent’s well-being.
Document Your Observations
Keep a detailed record of the behaviors or changes you observe. This can be valuable when discussing your concerns with your parent or healthcare providers, offering a clearer picture of their situation.
Consider Professional Help
A healthcare advocate can prove invaluable helping you navigate your parents' needs. Hakim Health Partners provides healthcare guidance for your parents and peace of mind for you.
A Time for Awareness and Care
Use this holiday season as an opportunity to monitor the health and well-being of aging parents. By staying observant and proactive, you can spot signs of declining health and cognitive functions. Engage in these discussions with care and compassion; your support can make a significant difference in their lives. Prioritizing your parent's health and safety will enhance their quality of life and provide comfort for you and your family. As always, if things are not going as you plan with your or your parents' health and you need some guidance, don't forget to reach out to me... your health advocate. A partner in your health. www.hakimhealthpartners.com






